I think that in your humorous response, you are getting to the core of the issue; parental involvement their adolescent's sex life.
I can only speak for my own experience, but I am quite happy that my parents didn't have any such illusions about "purity" or "chastity". I do remember discussing the topic with my mom; all she said was "You will feel a lot of strong emotions, so you should try to share that experience with someone that you trust and care about". I didn't make that choice until I was as adult, for my own reasons, and I think that was in part because I felt like it was my decision to make, and when I made it, it was for myself and my own reasons.
This is an interesting topic of discussion, given that Canada is raising the age of consent to 16, a move I personally disagree with.
I dislike the idea of a young woman being held to a standard of "purity", and that she can only have sex, even as an adult, when her father/pastor gives her permission or some societal expectation has been met. Why should anyone get such a say in an adult woman's choice in sex partners?
Why isn't a mom delegated the task of "giving away" her daughter's virginity; she's actually gone through the experience herself, I would think that she is better qualified.
I think that a woman's father certainly does set some standards and expectations for how she might interact with a future partner and gives her a basis for comparison for personality traits, and what she may or alternatively may not want in a future male partner. But actually "dating" your dad? Still creepy!
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There's nothing wrong with that. In fact, I'm attending this weekend's Mother-Son He's-not-going-to-put-his-hand-down-his-pants ball.
I think that in your humorous response, you are getting to the core of the issue; parental involvement their adolescent's sex life.
I can only speak for my own experience, but I am quite happy that my parents didn't have any such illusions about "purity" or "chastity". I do remember discussing the topic with my mom; all she said was "You will feel a lot of strong emotions, so you should try to share that experience with someone that you trust and care about". I didn't make that choice until I was as adult, for my own reasons, and I think that was in part because I felt like it was my decision to make, and when I made it, it was for myself and my own reasons.
This is an interesting topic of discussion, given that Canada is raising the age of consent to 16, a move I personally disagree with.
I dislike the idea of a young woman being held to a standard of "purity", and that she can only have sex, even as an adult, when her father/pastor gives her permission or some societal expectation has been met. Why should anyone get such a say in an adult woman's choice in sex partners?
Why isn't a mom delegated the task of "giving away" her daughter's virginity; she's actually gone through the experience herself, I would think that she is better qualified.
I think that a woman's father certainly does set some standards and expectations for how she might interact with a future partner and gives her a basis for comparison for personality traits, and what she may or alternatively may not want in a future male partner. But actually "dating" your dad? Still creepy!
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